A friend is one soul enduring in two bodies. You may have heard this quote, but deciding if your friend is a true friend is very difficult because now a days everyone is wearing a mask on their face. And anyone who doesn’t want to show their real face Everyone tries to become good in front of others because they can take advantage of that person, and you trust that person blindly.
In the future, when they show their real face, you are late, so before making anyone your best friend and trusting him blindly, read all the points that I am going to mention, and you can also apply these points to check whether your existing friend is a true friend or not.
But first, let’s define what a true friend is. A true friend is one with whom you can share everything that you cannot share with a family member or any other person. A true friend is one who is there for you when no one is there. A true friend is one who, when you are around them, feels safe and good. A true friend is like your better half who guides you, supports you, and helps you.
Sign that your friend is a true friend.
1.) You feel good around them. (Tips to decide if your friend is a true friend or fake friend)
The first sign that your friend is a true friend is that whenever you meet them, whatever was your earlier mood, after meeting them, you actually feel good around them. You don’t think before speaking to him what he will think about me; you just tell them whatever you feel, like if you are frusted on someone, you tell your friend about that person,
or if anything is not going well in life, you also tell your friend that thing is not going well in life, and after sharing all these things, you feel very relaxed, and ultimately, you feel good. So if you go to your friend and you feel safe and good around him, and he also feels the same, then your friend is a true friend.
2.) They accept you as you are. (Tips to decide if your friend is a true friend or fake friend)
When you are with your true friend, you don’t have to put a mask on your face. You become what you really are, like in an office. You put a mask on your face so that you can be accepted by a maximum number of people, and when you are with a stranger, you put another mask on your face so that you can be seen as a good person in front of the stranger.
But when you are with your true friend, however, you are either good or arrogant. You can clearly express yourself in front of your friend without any hesitation, and your friend also opens up to you. As he is without a mask, it can be considered that your friend is a true friend.
3.) A true friend will be with you in good and bad times. (Tips to decide if your friend is a true friend or fake friend)
A true friend is one who will be there with you in good as well as bad times. There are many fake friends who will always be with you when your time is good, but you will never see them in your bad time, and you know life is a circle of good and bad, so everyone has a bad day. If the friend you are with is with you in that bad time, then you can consider him your true friend. He may not be there for you in your good times, but he will always be there for you in your bad times.
4.) A true friend will show you the right path. Even if you don’t like you. (Tips to decide if your friend is a true friend or fake friend)
A true friend will always show you right path whenever you will divert to wrong path but if your friend is not true he will encourage you to do wrong things like he will always encourage you to do the party go to club and have fun but a true friend will always show you right path he will encourage you to focus on your future he will encourage you to earn money.
He will encourage you to do business he will encourage you to follow good habits he will encourage you to not waste you precious time in party and clubbing I know you will not feel good when your friend will tell you to study rather then doing the party and you will feel good if your friend always take you to the party but trust me the friend who Is encouraging you to focus on your goal that is your true friend.
5.) Honest and trustworthy
Honesty is a very important part of a healthy friendship. If your friend is hiding something or telling you a lie about anything, like he tells you that he is a very good person, but you come to know that he is not a good person; he just uses other people to make his profit and then breaks the friendship, then be aware of that type of person.
One way to identify that person is that if he says bad things about his family or bad things about his father and mother, it is a clear indication that the person is not a good person. Any good person will never say anything bad about his father or mother, however bad they are.
6.) They share personal things with you.
One of the best ways to identify whether your friend is a true friend or not is that the person shares personal things with you, because anyone will not share their personal things with you until they have full trust in you. A person will only share their personal things with you when they have full trust in you; otherwise, they will not share.
So if anyone of your friends shares his personal problem or situation, you must know that he trusts you blindly, and you can consider him your true friend. If you are searching for any person with whom you can share your personal issue, you can share it with that person, and he will not share your personal problem with others.
7.) They make you feel included. (Tips to decide if your friend is a true friend or fake friend)
A true friend will introduce you to his family and friends.
A true friend will invite you to social activities with their common friend.
A true friend will never leave you alone on any plane; they will always be there with you at any party or at any function.
A true friend will never make you feel left out.
8.) They are happy for you if you achieve something or if something good happens to you.
A true friend will always be happy for you for your achievement or something good happens to you not only from outside but from inside, but if any of your friends get jealous of your achievement or criticize your growth, then he is not your true friend because a true friend will never feel jealous of your activity.
9.) Laugh with you.
There is one friend. Whenever you meet him, you will always have fun together, and you will laugh with each other shamelessly. Because I can say it with experience, I have one friend with whom I laugh very much at small jokes. Nowadays, there are very few times when we laugh with our hearts, so if there is any friend with whom you laugh too much, then he can be your true friend.
10.) Help you whenever you ask for help.
A true friend is decided in a bad situation. If you are in any tough situation and you ask for help from your friend, then in that tough situation he is ready to help you, even if you don’t ask for help, and he comes to know that you are in trouble and will help you, whether it is financial help, any other kind of help, or just that you need his support.
11.) They talk to you in the same way even after you have met him for a long time
If, for any reason, you and your friend are unable to talk for a long time, like you both get busy in your carrier, but when you meet each other after a long time, you don’t feel any difference; you just talk to them like before, like you used to talk to them, and you will start talking like wherever you left off, there will be no difference in your friendship.
12.) A true friend will not dominate you. (Tips to decide if your friend is a true friend or fake friend)
A true friend will never dominate you; he will always give priority to your decision; he will never dominate his decision to you; he will ask you about anything; he will do the things you both like. He will always proceed, whether there is mutual consent for any decision or not. If you both agree upon any decision, then only he will proceed further.
A true friend isn’t perfect.
It is not possible to find all the points in one person because no one is perfect and everyone has a flaw, so it is very difficult to find all the points in one person. So you must see the bigger picture; you just cannot break your friendship if any one of the points does not match with them. You can check all these points and see the bigger picture. If more than 70% of the points also match, he can be a good person, but if it is less than 50%, I think you have to think about it before making him your friend.
Books about true friendship
To know more in detail about friendship, you can consider reading a book because books are the best way to learn, so I can recommend a few books that can help you to know in depth about friendship.
1.) Three Things About Elsie by Joanna Cannon
2.) Morning with Rose by Libby Page
3.) My friend Anna, by Rachel DeLoache
4.) The friend by Sigrid Nunez
5.) Big Friendship by Ann Friedman