Move on from break up or Forgetting anyone, especially your loved one, is not an easy task. It can be very challenging to forget anyone whom you love. Because you have spent some beautiful moments with that person and those were the best moments of your life, it is not easy to forget that person overnight.
But your life is not over yet, so you need to move on in your life because you cannot control everything. There are many other people who care about you and have some expectations of you, so you need to get up for them and start living your life. There is much more to life.
There are some proven ways to get over someone you love. So let’s look into the ways.
1.) Accept the reality of the situation and move on from break up.
First you have to accept the situation. Yes, it is true that you loved someone with all your heart, but the other person did not love you back as much as you loved him/her. So you have to accept that he/she is not going to come to you. If you accept it, then you can begin your healing process.
2.) Clear your baggage.
With every relationship, there are lots of feelings and thoughts attached to it. The longer the relationship, the stronger the thoughts and feelings will be. I know it is not easy to delete all the thoughts from your mind, but you have to do it. It is not a quick process, but it is possible First off, all you have to do is remove all the gifts and presents given by him/her and try to remove all those things that remind you of him/her,
because the more you see the things that remind you of that person, the more you will feel bad, so it is better to remove all those things. You can give all the things to any of your friends or donate them to a person who needs them. This is the first step to moving on from a breakup.
Not only do you have to clean the outer baggage, but you also have to clean the inner baggage, which refers to the thoughts circling inside your head. I know it’s difficult, but it’s necessary if you want to move on from a breakup. There may be many emotions that may be going on inside your head.
They can be sad, angry, grieving, hateful, or maybe other deeper emotions. Whatever emotion may be going on inside your head, feel the emotion and let it go. If you are feeling angry, feel the anger. If you are feeling hate, feel the hatred and let it go. If you want to cry as much as you can, you will feel lighter after taking your time to process all the feelings that are going on inside your head. Don’t stop your feelings; let them come and accept them.
Because you know that if you pack any kind of pressure inside of a bottle, it will explode one day, so don’t pack your feelings because one day they will explode and they may explode on any innocent person. For example, if you have packed feelings of anger inside of you and one day one small boy hits you with the ball by mistake, and it doesn’t cause much harm to you, even then, the anger that is packed inside of you will explode and you will do something wrong with the children. So to avoid this kind of situation, let your feelings be known at that time only. So to complete the baggage process, you must understand and accept the feeling.
3.) Accept that he or she was not the only one for you.
Many people can’t easily move on from breakups because they realize that he/she was the only one for them. They were made for each other. You can’t imagine yourself and yourself with anyone else. This kind of feeling is very dangerous. This will make you think that one day she/he will come, but that’s that one day that never comes and this will affect your mental condition.
One thing is certain: if the other party does not have the full intention of being together for the rest of your life, I am confident that she/he was not meant for you and that God has chosen someone else for you.
If he/she is the only one for you, then it is very clear that whatever the situation may be, if any obstacles come, the other party will not live with you in any condition. If the other party does so, understand that he/she was not for you. Because the person who will be there for you will never live with you under any circumstances. So if he/she left you, then understand that he/she was not for you and that God has made someone else for you.
3.) Share everything with your close friend.
Don’t go through all this pain alone. Your friends are there for a reason. They are there to help you, to support you, to motivate you, and to exchange your feelings. But don’t tell any of your friends because they are not all your real friends. If you share all these things with your fake friend, then, in spite of motivating you, he will demotivate you and make fun of you.
So you should share all these things with your close friend, whom you know very well. When you share your thoughts with your friends, you will feel much lighter and more relaxed.
Your friend can also give you some suggestions through which you can come out of your feelings. So it is better to share your thoughts because there is a quote that says sorrow becomes less when you share.
4.) Shift your focus
Now it’s time to change Shift your focus because you are consistently thinking about your ex, which is why the feeling hurts you so much. Shift your focus from that person to the other things you love to do. For example, you love to travel, so go and travel somewhere to distract your mind and see other beautiful things that are still there with you.
The next thing you can do is spend time with your family and friends. Because when you are alone, you will think about that person only, but when you spend time with your friends and family, you will see that there are other people who love you more than the one who left you.
So spend time with your family and friends. You will feel much better and you will realize that there are many other people who care about you.
5.) Meet new people.
Don’t be trapped by overthinking a person for too long. The world is very big and there are many people in the world, so get out and meet new people. There are so many people living around you and you don’t even notice them, and a few of them will be very great people. You don’t know them until you talk to them.
Try to make new friends. Try to find someone with whom you are compatible to share all the feelings you have shared with the person who broke up with you. So try to find and meet people with whom you share the same vibes. This is only possible when you meet as many people as possible.
It’s always amazing to meet new people because you will learn many things from them and you will also be exposed to their journey through life. Everyone has their own story, and it is very interesting to come to know about others’ stories.
When you come to know about their stories, you will realize that all people have some kind of problem in life. No one is problem-free. Each one has its own problems, and you can learn many new approaches to deal with the different kinds of problems that can happen during your lifetime.
As Buddha said, the world is full of suffering, and when you see the suffering of other people who don’t have a home to live in, food to eat, or clothes to wear, you will realise that your life is much much better than theirs.
6.) Remind yourself that there is nothing wrong with you.
It is easy to conclude that there may be something wrong with you. That’s why the person you loved left you. But everyone’s personality and choices are different, so it is not possible that everyone likes you.
There may be some people who are ready to give their lives for you, and there may be some people who don’t even cut their nails for you. It is human nature.
All five fingers on our hands are not equal, so it may be that the traits and personality the other person wanted were not in you. You may have a different personality than some other girls, but that’s all. There is nothing wrong with this. You guys were not made for each other.
Your real one may be someplace else, so forget the past and go out and find the real one who is really for you. And, without a doubt, God will send you a partner. You just have to do your work and leave the rest to God. He is a very good judge. His judgment is always for your benefit.
7.) Time is the best healer.
Yes, moving on is difficult. It takes a lot of tears and peace of mind to find, but as time passes, you will heal automatically. There is no specific time at which you will heal. It depends on the person. Some heal within one month, while others take a year. It depends on you. If you shift your focus from here to any other work, you will heal quickly. However, if you are dipped in the person’s thoughts, it can take time.
8.) Forgive yourself and your ex.
Everyone makes mistakes because we are human beings and it is in the nature of human beings to make mistakes, but holding on will only make things worse, so let it go. If it was your ex’s fault, forgive him/her. If it was yours, forgive yourself also and move on.
There are many more things in life to explore. It was just a small part of life and now it is gone, so forgive your ex and yourself and move on. By forgiving, you will feel much lighter, and then you can carry on with your other work.
9.) Develop yourself by learning a new skill.
Learning a new skill that you have wanted to learn for a long time is now the time to do so because when you learn a new skill, you are opening the channels of the brain and making your brain more focused. Learn the skills that will help you grow in life.
They will help you build a better future. You may have heard the quote that the biggest revenge is a massive success, so grow yourself in life so much that the one who left you will regret her decision.
10.) Rearrange your living space.
By rearranging your living space, you are moving one step closer to forgetting that person. When you rearrange, then you will be less likely to think about the person with whom you have spent some good time talking and chatting in that room.
So rearrange your room and make a fresh start in your life.
CONCLUSION:
Breakups and paths are part of life; they are not the end of life. As time passes, you will have no hatred or frustration toward yourself or others, and you will thank yourself for getting out of that relationship. You can learn from your previous relationship and try not to make the same mistake again.
Maybe you both met for a special reason, and from that relationship, you have learned something that you can never learn without being in a relationship. This experience will help you to become a better person in life.
And one day you will be grateful for all the incidents that occurred in your life because they made you stronger on the inside and prepared you to face the same incident if it occurred again in the future. Remember that everything happens for a reason.
So thank you very much if you have read till here. I hope you liked it and all the best for your future. There are many things to do in life. Breakup is just a small part of life, so let it go and focus on your life.